Burying Fred Phelps

I currently work for a parish that calls all of its services for the departed “A Celebration of the Life of X”. The same was true of my last parish. There have been plenty who have posted on what a terrible mistake that sort of language is, but today it is the death of Fred Phelps that has reminded me of what a mistake that language is.

When we die, it is not our life that allows us to celebrate, but the Resurrection of Jesus, i.e. his life. We have no right to such a celebration of our own life. When we gather for the burial of the dead, we do so “in sure and certain hope of the resurrection to eternal life” (BCP, 501). That hope does not come from our worthiness, but from the promise made through Christ’s Resurrection.

As Paul wrote,

For while we were still weak, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly. Indeed, rarely will anyone die for a righteous person—though perhaps for a good person someone might actually dare to die. But God proves his love for us in that while we still were sinners Christ died for us (Romans 5:6-8)

Fred Phelps, to my mind, was a miserable sinner. So am I. The burial liturgy works just as well for him as it does for me. That is because it is not rooted is his goodness or mine, but rather the goodness of a God who has won victory over Death. Our burial liturgy makes no sense if any of it depends upon the goodness of the person being buried.

I could not, nor could most Christians, celebrate the life of Fred Phelps. However, I (and most priests I know) would still bury him. In that burial service, I’d say the same thing I would say in any other:

Acknowledge, we humbly beseech you, a sheep of your own fold, a lamb of your own flock, a sinner of your own redeeming (BCP, 499).


One thought on “Burying Fred Phelps

  1. I have always been intrigued by the euphemisms for being dead. Home Going, Passed on/away, kick the bucket, bought the farm, check-out… It reminds me of one of my agnostic friends answers to a suggestion that her husband had “passed-away” , she said,”No, he died, he’s dead, I saw it, I was there, he didn’t pass anywhere”. It kills the need to put a pretty bow on death, however lackluster.

Please leave a comment. The comments sections is a place for discussion, not argument. Argumentative, rude, or disrespectful posts will be moderated.

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s